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Part 3 Keeping Her Interested: 7. Get her contact information

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Get her contact information.  If you really hit it off with the girl, then you can ask for her email, phone number, or even just for her last name so you can be Facebook friends. If you're asking her out, you can be more blunt about it, but if you just like her and want to talk to her again, just say something like, "I have to get going, but I'd love to pick up this conversation another time. Can I call you so we can do that?" She'll say yes without hesitating. If you're feeling more shy, get her Facebook or email, and send her something goofy with it--a link to a web comic she'd enjoy or a silly forum thread. It's also less awkward than the phone. It helps her notice you more and you have a better chance of meeting again. Get her contact information just when the conversation is going great, and you're at your peak of finding fun things to talk about. Don't wait until the conversation drags to ask for her contact info, or she'll be less in...
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Part 3 Keeping Her Interested: 6. Stay positive

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Stay positive.  People like hanging out with people who make them laugh, feel happy, and have a positive outlook on the world. If you're feeling grumpy or like the world is against you, then it's not the best day to approach a girl. Talk about the things and people that make you happy and focus on the positive experiences you've both had; when you get to know each other better, you can talk more about the negative stuff, too, but if you want to keep her engaged at first, then you should set a decidedly positive tone. You can even catch yourself if you're having a negative moment. If she asks you how traffic was getting there and you say, "Terrible," fix the negatively by saying, "But I'm really loving this new audio book I'm listening to," or "But I saw the cutest family of deer on the way over." If she asks you about a certain band that you  really  hate, you can say something like, "I haven't really heard enough of their ...
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Part 3 Keeping Her Interested: 5. Don't lie just to impress her

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Don't lie just to impress her.  Talk to her honestly, and don't stretch the truth. The natural inclination is to embellish things, but it's much more trouble than it's worth. If you really get to know and like her and she eventually finds out you lied to her, it's extremely embarrassing to you and breaks her trust (and the relationship). You shouldn't be putting on an act whenever you see her, in any sense. Even if she doesn't notice for a while, other people (and other girls) will notice you're acting more impressive around her. If you want to see the girl again, then your lies will eventually catch up with you. If you want her to like you, then she has to like the real you -- from the beginning.
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Part 3 Keeping Her Interested: 4. Stay relaxed

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Stay relaxed.  If you're nervous, sweaty, or scared, the girl will be able to tell. If you're feeling nervous, just slow down your speech, focus on the dynamics of the conversation instead of every word you're saying, and stop fidgeting with your hands or looking around the room. If you're not relaxed, the girl will pick up on your tension and will feel uneasy as well. Take deep breaths, slow down your speech and movement, and think about the best case scenario instead of the worst thing that can happen. If you're  really  nervous and it's painfully obvious, you can make a small joke about it to lighten the mood. If you're really the nervous type, bring a bottle of water or soda around with you so you can sip on it from time to time to calm yourself down and to take small breaks.
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Part 3 Keeping Her Interested: 3. Keep up your confidence

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Keep up your confidence.  Be confident in yourself and don't be afraid of saying something stupid.   If you're not afraid then you probably won't. Just keep engaging her and be okay with the occasional awkward exchange, silence, or story that you had trouble telling the right way. Stay positive, relaxed, and happy, and she'll have even more fun talking to you. Don't be too self-deprecating, even if you think it'll make her laugh, or she'll think you have a low self-image. You don't have to brag to be confident. You can talk about how much you love baseball without telling her that you're a star athlete. One sign of confidence is being able to laugh at yourself. This will show her that you don't take yourself too seriously.
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Part 3 Keeping Her Interested: 2. Don't try too hard

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Don't try too hard.  A girl will be able to tell if you're trying too hard to  pick her up  from a mile away. If you want to keep her interested, then you shouldn't relentlessly pursue her if she doesn't want to be pursued, compliment her ten million times when she's clearly uncomfortable, or show off by bragging about how much you can bench press or about the home run record you're trying to set for your county. Relax and stop caring so much about impressing her and you will actually end up impressing her more. If the girl sees that you're comfortable enough with yourself that you don't have to try so hard to get her to like you, she'll want to talk to you even more. If you flex your bicep, talk about what great shape you're in, or tell her how good you look with your shirt off, she will be nothing but turned off.
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Part 3 Keeping Her Interested: 1. Crack her up

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Crack her up.  Girls like guys that make them laugh. Don't be afraid to flaunt your wit and sense of humor -- as long as you aren't  too  raunchy or inappropriate in the beginning. You don't have to start off with a series of knock-knock jokes to get her attention; just make sharp comments, fire back a quick joke if she has one, and make unique observations about the world around you that make her think. Don't overthink it. If you have a goofy or a cornball sense of humor, let her see it. If you try a joke and she doesn't laugh, show her that you don't take yourself too seriously. Say, "Maybe I'll have better luck next time..." and it'll make her laugh. If she makes a funny comment, don't just say, "That's really funny." Show her that you can make a funny comment right back, or laugh with her at it.
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