Part 2 Making Her Feel Special: 1. Find common ground

Find common ground. Try to steer the topic in the direction of something you both care about, from your obsession with Community to your love of biking. You don't have to do this by asking her about her five favorite bands, types of food, hobbies, or forms of exercise; you can just listen to the natural flow of the conversation, and see if you can find something you both like, or if you can get her to notice something you like. For example, if you casually mention that you were coming back from the A's game yesterday, then she'll respond if she's a big A's fan, too.
  • When you're talking, make sure you ask open-ended questions instead of "yes" or "no" questions, so you can keep the conversation going.
  • Make sure to avoid awkward silences! Remember: things will only be awkward if you make them awkward, be confident and keep the conversation flowing as best as you can.
  • Don't despair if you feel like you have nothing in common. You'll be able to find something eventually if you keep up a fun conversation for long enough.
  • It may turn out that you don't have so much in common, but that you click because you have similar personalities or outlooks. That's great, too.
  • When you mention a band you like, ask her if she likes the band too; let her see that you care about her interests when you're talking about yours.

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